Hank Tate, in Discipline – You Can’t Succeed Without It, shares the results of a study by some child psychologists.
The psychologists assumed fences around playgrounds must inhibit children in their play; after all, the fences placed a restriction around them. So they removed the fences and observed the children. What actually happened surprised the psychologists.
When the fences were removed, the children tended to huddle toward the middle of the playground, showed signs of insecurity, and became more inhibited in their play. But when the fences were put back up, the kids loosened up again and played with enthusiasm and freedom.
The boundaries gave them the sense of security they needed.
One of our most important jobs as parents is to set reasonable boundaries for our children’s behavior….